Dear Grandchildren,
My grandfather seldom sought medical attention. He probably had to have one foot in the grave and another on a banana peel before seeking a doctor’s help. I suspect my grandfather had come to see a strong positive relationship between visiting the doctor and death.
My father visited the doctor more frequently, but it was far from a regular occasion. Again, the condition had be severe before a doctor’s assistance was sought. The liberal application of Watkins salve was his prescription for cuts, scrapes, and slivers. Stomach problems were addressed with a concoction of vinegar, baking soda, and Watkins liniment. (This mixture frightened me since the Watkins liniment was clearly marked for external use only.) It was the more serious maladies that required a doctor’s assistance: bulging discs, severed fingers, a heart arrhythmia.
For the last 25 years, I’ve had a standing appointment with my physician for an annual physical. As my age increases, so do my medical visits. Those aches, pains, and concerns just keep coming. Knowledge brings peace of mind. Plus, small life adjustments today (change of diet, physical therapy, exercise) outweigh major life adjustments later (walkers, wheelchairs, injections).
Perhaps the family reflects the changing attitude about medicine. Today the view rests somewhere between trauma and prevention. Oh, we still rush to the doctor, Urgent Care, or the hospital when there’s trauma, but overall we tend to visit more often for prevention and peace of mind.
Personally, I have no recollection of mother ever visiting a dentist although she may have had false teeth for my entire life. I only recall my father visiting a dentist once to have his teeth removed and to be fitted for false teeth. I cannot recall a time when I didn’t visit the dentist at least twice a year. (Incidentally, because of some gum problems I now visit four times a year, but I still have my own teeth.)
The legal profession never got the message. Lawyers seem to be called upon only in moments of trauma: injury, crime, death, divorce, breach of contract. I can’t recall the number of clients whom I represented who showed up with their life in pieces and expected me to put it back together (and then complain about the cost). It ought not to be that way. Many legal problems could have been resolved with a little forethought and preparation. Fortunately options are beginning to exist to get legal advice at a reasonable cost before the trauma like LegalShield. Perhaps getting legal advice beforehand will forestall a larger legal expense later.
Throughout this course, peace of mind hasn’t been mentioned. It should be! Fear spreaders work vigorously. Each fear spreader tells of a new horror beyond our control. Old and new evils definitely await us. However, it doesn’t need to be that way.
Fear spreaders market externals: things beyond our control. The simple goal, although the fear spreaders will never admit it, is to take away our peace of mind, our tranquility, our choice.
Focus on what you can control. When you do, peace of mind returns and your mental health is enhanced.
Love,
Grandfather
P.S. Keep your family history in mind. People love to talk about exporting democracy as we have it today; yet, the democracy we have today reflects our evolution. My grandfather would believe I’m crazy to visit the physician as often as I do. Why would we expect people who have never experienced democracy to adopt exactly what we have today? The same goes for removing statues, changing the name on buildings, censoring publications. The yardstick isn’t today’s standards but rather at the time the statue was placed, the money donated, or the publication created.